Correction and discipline are meant to improve and enhance a child's sense of self and help a child become self-disciplined, self-motivated, and self-determined. While physical appearance is important, it isn't important as to what is internal. I spend my entire time doing homework and sometimes i have so much that i just simply forget some pieces. Watch popular content from the following creators: Mxc(@ventmxc), h mama(@tzomama), 11/08/21(@lostwithmarshy), ewww(@skinkycaca), my name is lani(@secretaccountt140), miles buchart(@milesnueman), DONT CALL ME CUTE I BEG U(@albedo_realwife), dump(@potatongina_00), Idk 2.0(@user266279192), cosmic (@if.ur.sad . My goodness. Both my parents never had caring conversations either, and didnt care if I need help, didnt care about my feelings or thoughts. The violence at home had gotten so extreme I'd vomit before class so my stomach would be in less knots. However, there are parents who equate mistakes with grave mortal sins. He obviously loves you. Answer: Your father would be classified as an overprotective parent. I've seen a few therapist and a psychologist by my own free will trying to get better. I used to have suicide thoughts when I was little but I give up on that because of the internet that make me have a lot of online friends that supported me .I feel stupid sometimes because when I have negative thoughts there goes the positive pop out of no where .,. Children need praise in order to assess the positivity of their performance and to continue with such behavior. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on September 14, 2018: All this broils down to parental insecurity, when parents need to control every aspect of the children lives to assuage their fears. (i'm the eldest) i also remember trying to open up to my mother but that didn't end well either. Struggling to cope with things beforehand were fine to me. Parents believe that they apply corrective measures because they care for their children. I went to university despite her and worked in the IT sector. Reinforce positive behavior and lift your child up when they do something well. This led to stunted emotional development and made it hard to have a normal level of self-esteem. I know they care about my education, but they hurt my feelings. Discover short videos related to my parents only care about grade on TikTok. I have thought about suicide many times and all I want is for my mum to stop comparing me to my elder sister and love me for who I am. Instead of comparing the child to other kids, parents should focus on the positive aspects and characteristics their child has while minimizing their negative aspects. i also forgot to add i really badly wanted a phone im 14 and my cousins are younger then me and also there are some older then me i planned of what phone im going to get of coarse apple i told my mom and she said that she doesn't have enough money for it and then my cousin asked the one who is a year older then me she is getting him a phone on black friday last year my mom got phones for my aunt and one of my cousins, i remmember when my mom gets mad she tells me to die and that if i was dead it would be easier for the family and that she wouldn't have to constantly yell at me my mom says that im a disgracful peice of shit to this family, funny how all 10 describe my parents your typical asian parents also such a coincidence my mother was talking to my younger cousin over the phone she's i think 12 and im 14 and she's comparing her and my sister with me always telling my flaws to others and making a bad picture of me i feel humiliated and disgraced of myself i hate myself of who i am now i think of myself lowly now my self esteem is destroyed now no matter how much i talk back to that voice of negitivity i lose every time it proves to me that this is what I am a peice of shit and nothing more my mother never shows her love to me it was always my sister and my mother and father only care about my grades that is it i struggle with math and i stepped from a D to an B and then something happened between witch caused me to drop my grade down to a D again and they gave me a 2 hour lecture about how im nothing without my grades and that if i don't step up my grades they will send me to a hostel my hobby is art is shut down i live art and no one can stop me from doing what i love so lunch at school or secret art classes is the only time i get to do the thing i love, Amazing how all 10 describe my parent i guess that's just typical asian parent(chinese descent), all my school and university of my choice got shot down, all jobs,hobby, and things that i like to do,even if i tried taking over the family business like they themself WANTED all shot down, demanding a perfect girlfriend,all my female friend got shot down no one can stand my parent,and they demand grandkids,now i don't even want to marry or have children, i tried talking to my grandma and other relative that is "higher" in position than them,they talk to my parent,then they change for the better for about 1 week..after that they become worst than the last and how dare i talk about bad thing about them to the relative and shaming them, i tried bringing them to the psychologist,they got advice bla bla,same thing happen 1 week wonderful parent,after that they become worst and worst, i tried cutting off contact and they harping to all my relative and acquaintance of how ungrateful and bad children i am,if i really want to cut off from them i have to cut off from other family member and friend that i have or they will try to find out where i am from them and destroy my life again and again and again, oh and how super religious they are how active they are in church they are literally think themself as holyman that cannot do any wrong,smiting me for how evil i am but they are not looking at the mirror themself of how they think they are servant of god and how they really act,i even tried talking about their situation with the help of the bible i quote some verse and they smite me again about how dare i use the bible against them. Sleep Deprivation, Behavior, And Academic Performance, I Caught my Child Smoking Marijuana (Pot) Again, Caring For Elderly Parents At Home: How To Cope. You contact their professors, because you didn't like a grade/want to ask for clarification on an assignment/want to ask for an absence to be excused/want to ask for an extension on an assignment due date. I've had my body taken advantage of multiple times by multiple people. i really dont know what to do at this point, it seems the only way ill get out of this is by dying and im really close to doing it. They also become passive, believing that they do not count. They believe that by comparing one child to another, the "errant" one will improve. What NOT to do if you are the parent of a college student. My experience is coming from an alcoholic home and ending up with C-PTSD. Teenagers who think they can do what they want, known they will get in trouble for doing it. I just want to cry most of the time. There are either low cost or free counselling services. But I've started going to the gym and learning about how to look after your body with real foods. I now only see her so that I don't get cut from her will, but I'm emotionally divorced from her. Question: Why do my parents always compare me to my sister? It is hard to excel in school when you feel pressure on all sides. Question: After not being able to date and having your critical narcissistic mother and kind/go-along father force your career, marrying a violent man, would you say my problems stem from low self-esteem? Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on July 03, 2020: Talk to a trusted relative about this. Parents expect many things from their offspring, but the most valuable thing in their eyes is good grades. She is emotionally abusing you & you don't have to take this. "He just kept saying over and over: 'In our family, that's not acceptable.' I didn't know what to say to him. How To Deal With Teenagers: How Bad Is Peer Pressure, And Can Parents Influence The Peer Group? its just too much, i cant go on living like this and i get frequent suicidal thoughts. they only care about my grades and that I should go to a Ivy League collage! Takedown request | View complete answer on hassaanhamid.medium.com Does she think we're stupid and don't know anything!" You have to start preparing for highschool and I am in 6th grade! Also develop self-confidence, you are a beautiful, worthy person- a child of God. i would really appreciate the feedback and the suggestions of what i should do Etc.. umm, here's what i did, im old though and idk if you can still get away with this. Don't blame them. Im not really praised as much as my sister is. I know my parents love me and they are trying to provide me with the best life they can but they are so controlling. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on July 20, 2018: Are you the oldest of a large/very large family? Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on June 14, 2018: DON'T KILL yourself. Which is true because my sister is a great person who is becoming a doctor.Which sounds good for parents to brag about. Demeaning and comparison by parents is so much that most of the kids starts doing what others are doing rather then choosing their own profession. We want to hear from you! Kids are sadistic with one another. My parents do all of this to me very intensely and almost abusively. My mam blamed them for making me not study (even though I was) and she often didnt allow me to leave the house. And this country has become a country of snowflake children. I'm so depressed right now. I cant wait until I get to leave but Ive still got to wait another 5 years. Now it's me and my sister. There are individuals who aspire to uncommon goals and unique careers. Their overprotectiveness affects me in all areas of my life I can't associate with ppl, I can't make friend even in the choir, ppl say I'm rude and lack manners but I don't understand hw. I checked off about 7-8 ways I've been hurt. I just had sex for the first time in over 2 years. From my perspective, I hate children. There are parents who do not believe in praising because they believe that it softens and spoils kids and will make them conceited and think too highly of themselves. Im 16 and i have an incredibly stressful life 6am - 10 or 12pm everyday. I know how bad it hurt when they did it to me. Last report card, I got a C in math. Real Example: We got our grades of the Chemistry exam today, i read the question wrong, i read Beta Particles instead of Alpha Particles, but i answered the question right if it was talking about Beta Particles so basically i answered it right, in a way. Don't stay w/toxic family members who don't respect/love you. Give them help if they need it and don't put undue pressure on them to get good grades at all costs. She wanted an education but they saw her merely as a means of supplementing their income. If you are old enough, implement ways to move away from your father. He's Spanish and Mexican. So fuck it, lol. One day, you'll understand. I hope Killing Myself would be better than living in meaningless life. To Everyone being castigated , Blindsided . I'm turning 22 & I'm not even allowed to have sleepovers or go for sleepovers. My mother's parenting, somewhat pushy and demanding, came from the knowledge that life could be harsh and a well intentioned desire for her children to be tough and prepared for anything. Thanks. Strict parents, They are trying to shape me into what they want me to be, How to deal with teenagers?! If they aren't receptive, discuss the matter with a trusted relative. Things got progressively worse as years went by and I got siblings. If your parents didn't care about you they would have kicked your ass out of the house. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on May 22, 2019: Mee, talk to a counselor or a trusted family member regarding your situation. Parents try to discipline children for their own good. Disassociate from your mother. The hazing at Scouts, Cadets from other kids, bizarre and inhumane. At the end of the day I'll just say I never really loved her but I do. They want their children to succeed in life and in their vision, only good grades lead to a successful life. Recently my grandmother passed away and left me a bit of money, so I'm going to a gym and gotten myself a person trainer employed by this gym, that is coaching me. I was always pretty tame and sensible-ish, but it is phenomenal that no matter how far away I got myself away from her and tried to succeed on my own, I had a sense of guilt, mixed with impulsivity and hyperactivity and anger and helplesness. Putting money into savings for acting school or classes. Answer: Your mother wants the best for you. It's also about enjoying the process. Like there was really no real reason to do anything. But I don't feel I'm ready yet. For more on Carol Weston, visit her website:carolweston.comor like herFacebook page. Well, some individuals have goals and aspirations which are dramatically different and rare. 1. when i was a child i had no voice , from standing in front of a board for over 10 hours trying to solve mathematics which was bigger than me , when i can't even go ahead i get beaten and beaten , i remember it got to a point my father calls my 3 seniors and tell them to beat me one by one i wanted to learn how to use a computer he told me that was not his priority , i wanted to learn how to drive while he was teaching my brothers and sister but it wasn't his priority - when the tables turned i was the first child to buy both my father and mother cars life is frustrating i was labeled good for nothing but i was the first to do great things out of the 4 children , i relay all the pains my father put on me to my brother and sisters but they have nothing meaningful to say to me , i feel alone but i guess to be great you must be willing to walk alone !! I get a 96 she gets mad at me. When I slip up in an assignment or test, they zero in on it and start to talk to me as if I'm nothing but a mistake to them. Many parents refuse to acknowledge this. Family Troubles-Parents Divorced, Low Grades, Feeling Alone? Avoid them! I have anxiety about so many things, and i wish I could just have a more positive life.. My mom pushes me to do too much work. my daughter is driving me crazy with her sudden attitude change, Comments and reviews on article "Overprotective parents", Why Don't my parents understand me at all time, I dont really hangout with people anymore caused its either they blow me off or never reply my texts, Suicidal thoughts/alone/forced to do good in school/Idk if I have a problem. For example, like going to school. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on February 24, 2018: @Kelly, speak to her via telephone. Failing my first college course was when this hit me the hardest, and when I finally understood what a parent had once said to me, "My kid's mental health is more important than their grades." Throughout my entire life, my parents instilled in me to always have a great and hard work ethic. Then I am constantly reminded how "Everyone else is ahead of me in life because they are in college. I should be homeless, rather dead because I wouldn't pan handle I'd just wander off in the woods. The other day she told me she she'd never forgiven me for accepting a biscuit from a neighbour when I was just 3. The scouts and cadets did instill survival instincts into me and in the moments I was free when I was younger you would just see me sprinting bare foot through the forest like some Scrawny tiny white tarzan. But it's not enough for them!!! You can't learn if you don't try. Whenever I try to talk to them about how I feel, they yell at me. Your father is making you dependent as an exercise of his power. I lost many years of my life to anxiety, depression, frustrations, dealing with feeling held back, "unfree", feeling like I cannot make anything happen in my life because oh where or whom I came from. Im 10 and all of this has happend to me. All my parents care about are grades. I'm just frustrated. I have a "problem" i always get stressed in exams so i sometimes read questions in the wrong way, which leads to me getting low grades even though im good in that subject. Adults are just perverts to kids. When I got to high school I thought about ending the lives of every student and teacher. On the other hand, children who saw their parents as putting more emphasis on achievements over being kind to others were more likely to experience negative outcomes, such as depression, anxiety, lower self-esteem, behavior problems, criticism from parents, learning problemsand lower grades. Tore Down , I Love You All Because You Feel My Pain ..(God Bless You All ). "Actually, it's the parents," she confessed with a wince. That was an example of parental alien affection .., learned this in divorce law how parents pitnchildren against parents.. thats wrong and cruel .. My parents also want me to live what they had planned on me told me that when i grow up I need to gave them some of my "money " to show respect for raising me so they gave me more tuition and that one of the reason i been stressed lately (which cause me had overthinking habits and overreacting) and my grade dropped so they called me useless , stupid instead of their favourite child (my third sister and the youngest ). Talk to a school counselor regarding your parents. I hung out in my cave like room or over at my friend's house as a teen. One thing I can't believe is the stupidity I near from relatives and others i.e. Parents think that emphasising the importance of academics will motivate their children to work hard. But I keep thinking back to both experiences and both they make me smile. Maybe is because Im from a hispanic culture, but to me, parents are the absolute law. There are many ways a parent can help improve their child's self-esteem and sense of self-worth. Anyone raised by authoritarians like this becomes timid and submissive. If I ever have children,I would never treat them the way my mother treats me.So, one day My moms phone buzzes.My mom is busy,so I look.And Im scrolling and I see that my mom and sister are having a conversation back and forth.And I read a text message thats my mom wrote that said,I never said she was perfect,but she isnt a smart ass.It Hurted me so bad And when I read that.It felt like I got hit by a car,and felt as if I was punched in the stomach.My self esteem went down so quick.No kid should ever feel that way like their not smart,or good enough.For all those parents reading this or people who plan on being parents,dont ever treat your children child like that.You May think,its nothing,but the pain and rejection stings so bad.And you may forget all about it.But the child will remember it forever.Its a scar that will never heal. I believe in you and I don't even know you! They want to give you a better future than they have. One day I got a line drive for my glove as I was daydreaming out there but I moved my hand to miss because I thought it was going to hurt my hand. This results in a child's poor self image. They don't even care and they yell at me, telling me that i'm being dramatic, calling the scars on my arm "stupid", and telling me to my face, "If you commit suicide, we wont attend your funeral because we would be too embarrassed to have such a stupid & useless daughter." But them telling me that everyday is enough to ruin my day. My mother displayed many of these characteristics but, even if I often disliked her growing up, I could never hate her because she genuinely did believe she was acting in my best interest. They often view their children's physical and emotional differences as imperfections to be corrected and/or changed and may denigrate their children in order to make them shape up. Many parents fail to realize this. Family doesn't mean blood all the time. Question: Why does my father point out all my flaws? His friends would be out in the yard drinking beer with him I knew I should not be in earshot cuz that's man talk not for a lil girls ears so I was to be with my mother wherever she went and I was emotionally neglected. My mother has always treated me as an idiot. How to Make Life Easier for you and your Kids. I wouldn't want to cause them pain, and I have just naturally never fought for my life. I'm lucky to have her. Hey I am Fatima my mother is selecting her own opinion in my career she didn't give me any chance to study by my wish I Wana be in army but she don't understanding and she is doing what she wants what I do now? They are toxic, even evil. Shes caused me to have depression and take part in self harm. One thing for sure, Determination and Perseverance never fail you! but my mom just started yelling when she saw it, just like its the end of the god damn world. Question: Why do my parents always scold me about my scars when I'm trying my best to remove them? over a year ago. Might it help if you got a math tutor? Question: Do overprotective parents bring honesty or a lack of confidence in their children? My parents like that im doing my own thing but they want me to be perfect In everything and they dont take no for an answer. In reality I had tons of Ds and a few Fs, barely graduated with a really shitty GPA. He must have picked up on the feeling that I didn't belong. I'm gonna turn 30 in a few years, and my relationship with my parents has continued like this for what feels like an eternity. Those who criticize their diametrically different children's innate abilities and characteristics are often invalidating their children's innermost psychological core. Children of overprotective parents don't develop the skills to succeed in life. However, it does quite the opposite, and many such children feel worthless. 1 Reply More posts from r/SuicideWatch 394K subscribers No_Investigator_7700 7 days ago Of course in the darkest moments, you think of hurting others. Ever since i was a child i had developed depression because i was always in such a negative space. Her parents were lazy, uneducated, and short-sighted. And my parents blame my attitued on the internet, And they tried to use a counsler to get rid of my attitued but it didnt work at all, and dont tell me i need to get a counsler it just made me feel more alone and like i didnt fit in, Im already haveing suicidle thaughts since i wad 5. She went and sulked on me for days. Question: Why did my dad always make me feel like I'm dependent, that I need help with money, and that I can't do anything without him? I knew that my mam wasnt the best but I think I really understand it now. Conversely, many parents of C students believe that their kids are less than apt and intelligent, telling them to aspire lower as they are not ever going to be successful. Her love and support balance out the suffocating negativity coming from my father & help me believe in myself . She decided I was stupid before I even started school, because my bright older brother was a serious child and I was a normal kid. I dont want to blame anyone for the life I have." Hard to tell what could be helpful so far. Title says it all.. My parents only care about my grades. They took possession of her Xbox, limiting how often she is on it all because they don't want her to get "addicted". DON'T LISTEN to SMALL MINDED people! In fact, parents who are controlling are immature as well as insecure. I have a stored temperdue to being suppressed and snubbed from even showing negative irritation, get blamed for everything they do or that is not of their limited paradigms, heavily criticized for not wearing what clothes they got me (out of "love") or for keeping even a 2 day stubble. Money isn't common for me. Please seek psychological help. My parents & brothers even told me I deserved to be raped & that me getting raped was 'my fault'. I hesitate to feel proud of myself ever because in scared that my parents won't look at it to be proud of. my parents always tell me how am disappointing and how I will fail my tests. now i am grown i wonder how can you do that to someone you love talkless your own Child - The Other Day my own father asked me WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE , Talking about my first girlfriend and how i failed - What do you think you have achieved !! Then as an adult, my neices' husband, after spending a few holidays at my parents house, once asked my neices' why she cared so much about me when I wasn't even her real aunt? Do they want to live through you-you have to live YOUR OWN life, not THEIRS. These parents are totally soul-destroying and killing the dreams of a potential Picasso, Einstein, Mozart, and/or free thinker. He exemplifies the immature parent. But an under-achiever. So when I was growing up I never felt like I belonged. Question: Why do I feel so guilty when my father points out my siblings flaws? I have terrible times at school and I have no friends to be there for me. 2023 The Arena Media Brands, LLC and respective content providers on this website. 9 years they have been grumbling and criticizing my choice of freelance self-employment only because I dashed their dreams of being gainfully employed in the system. "She's rude, and who does she think she is thinking she can talk back to us like that. I strongly agree with all except the last one. My perspective at least. I'm 29 this year, having suicidal thoughts become normal to me till one day I decided to become my own self-motivator. With toxic parents, children are better off away such "parents". I'd be better if being fertilizer to sustain something else life. However, tell your mother that you are more than your grades. Answer: There are parents who view their children as an extension of them instead of the individuals that they are. I believe I have come to the point of not feeling like I belong and dare I say hopeless, somehow I find consolation that others have gone through this too, I wish you all the best and we will make it out of this time together! It is best for you to disassociate from him & his family. I am stuck, I am frustrated. I am perfectly happy with what I do. (My parents make me feel dumb.). But I can't say I'm surprised anytime there is a tradgid headline on the news, hate breeds more hate. What can I do? My mom didn't make the same mistakes as my grandma so the cycle didn't continue. They believe that they are making their kids' lives easier and less stressful. They do not view their kids as thinking, independent, autonomous individuals in their own right but instead as automatons and pieces of property that they can dictate and program at will. , my mum used to and still criticises her weight even though she looked fine, I dont know if that caused me to be extremely uncomfortable with gaining any weight. It's a shame stupidity isn't painful. Go here to submit questions to Carol about every sticky sitch life throws at you. Everyone in my family are all doctors and engineers. And i often doubt whether my parents really love me. It's sad that for a while I liked about where I worked and what I made. My uncles, aunts, cousins, grandparents, etc Where raised. What your mother is doing to you is beyond horrific. 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